Do You Settle For Less In Relationships?

This is for all my single ladies out there that are now trying to wrap their heads around being single. Never give up on love it's out there!

When you stop looking it comes right to you! 

Fear That You Won’t Find Anyone Else

Let’s face it. It’s not easy to find (or be found) by Mr. Right; and unfortunately we’re reminded of this fact quite frequently through our interaction with single girlfriends and news specials specifically targeted to “The Troubled, Single Black Woman’. With this in mind, we grow more skeptical to let go of a relationship in fear of not finding anyone else. For a woman who strongly wants to be in a relationship, the option of being single is less attractive than staying in an unfulfilling relationship.

Hold On In Hopes Of Changing Him

It’s almost a natural instinct for women to think we can change a man’s behavior. You’re spiritual and hope to convince him to love church just as much as you. You want to get married soon, but he doesn’t see marriage in the radar anytime soon. Still, you stick around in hopes of convincing him to see it your way. Although, we’ve all heard it before, we still don’t abide by the principal that people have to want to change in order to change. With this being said, you can’t base your relationship on ‘what-ifs’ or ‘when this happens then…’, because It may never happen. He may never see things your way. If you can’t love him for who he is at the moment, you are doing the both of you an injustice. You deserve someone who has a vision similar to yours and he deserves someone who doesn’t nag him about his lack of vision.

Hold On In Hopes of Changing Ourselves

I’ve been told I’m too picky; but this statement mainly came from men who were on totally different pages that I was. Still, at the time I thought that I was requiring too much and that I needed to change my outlook on relationships and requirements. Now that I look back, what I was asking wasn’t necessarily too picky. Instead, it just wasn’t what the person I was with was willing to give. Lesson learned, you don’t necessarily have to change yourself (unless it’s for the best and self-improvement) but instead change the person you’re with.

You’re Unsure Of What A Healthy Relationship Looks Like

If you’ve never seen a healthy relationship, how are you expected to know what it entails? For this reason, some women may choose to stay in an unfulfilling situation because we don’t know what fulfilling looks or feels like. While I may not have all the answers, I’m certain that if you can barely stand to look at your mate or he irritates you more than he makes you smile, it’s pretty safe to assume that it isn’t fulfilling.

You’re Really Not Ready To Be Single

Some women haven’t mastered the art of enjoying the single life. The word single automatically raises fear. Instead of going back to the single life of loneliness, they stay in a relationship that is secretly just a lonely. Sure, there’s a physical presence of someone else; but if that person isn’t satisfying them it’s the closest thing to being lonely.